what drives some people to need to be liked by everyone.
Sure we all like to be liked but when we take it so far as to NEVER disagree with anyone about anything EVER and ALWAYS say what we think others WANT to hear, aren’t we taking things a bit far?
Unfortunately I’ve had to deal with someone doing this a lot over the past two years and it hasn’t been pretty.
Because they are always saying what the person they are talking to wants to hear they often agree with bitching that’s going around without it necessarily being their actual opinion, never tell anyone when there is an actual problem from their point of view and always agree with anything you say whether they actually agree or not!
End result - everyone involved thinks they have the individual in question’s support and agreement and no issue ever gets resolved.
Gah!
What a mess!
And an even bigger mess when the eager to be ‘everyone’s mate’ person is in a position of leadership.
I often wonder what drives this kind of person…………..
Did they have no mates as a child?
Were they lonely as a young adult?
Did they learn to people please to try to please an overbearing or abusive parent?
Are their social skills so poor that they don’t realise they aren’t actually being loyal and trustworthy to the people whose loyalty and trust they are attempting to gain?
I dunno.
I’d far rather have mates who will slap me upside the head if I’m being stupid or unreasonable then have someone blow smoke up my arse all day long!
What do you reckon?
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Mistress B (258 comments.) Reply:
June 28th, 2009 at 12:02 pm
*nods*
That’s what we are finding
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Mistress B (258 comments.) Reply:
June 28th, 2009 at 12:03 pm
lol
Everyone needs one of those friends
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I don’t like to be disagreeable, so if I don’t agree with anyone’s post I’ll usually just not leave a comment. In real life, I’ll either say nothing (if I know I’ll get an earful of verbal abuse for not agreeing) or I’ll just say I don’t agree and leave it at that. Sometimes there’ll be further discussion at the end of which we agree to disagree.
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Mistress B (258 comments.) Reply:
June 28th, 2009 at 12:05 pm
There’s a big difference between saying nothing and saying what you think someone wants to hear whether you agree or not.
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Hey B,
I personally think that people like that live their lives in fear. They are afraid in general and so the way they make themselves safe is to agree with everyone. It is a twisted way to live life and I’m sure there are all manner of things that cause a person to get into this mode but chances are they are a glommer - someone who lives vicariously and lives off the energy and effort of others - particularly emotionally.
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
Annie
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Mistress B (258 comments.) Reply:
June 28th, 2009 at 12:15 pm
That makes a lot of sense Annie. I’m thinking this person is a bit of a glommer, it’s not just the constant telling people what he thinks they want to hear, there always seems to be some drama going on that he’s in the middle of.
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Have to admit to being a little like Anja…if you don’t want to know the answer, then don’t ask the question…
I have never, and will never aspired to winning popularity contests, so their thinking eludes me….
The word fucktard comes to mind when I think about it though….
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Mistress B (258 comments.) Reply:
June 28th, 2009 at 12:17 pm
Yes the word fucktard certainly does come to mind……….
i’ve been told that I can be a bit blunt and that can be intimidating, but I just don’t have the patience for extra bullshit these days.
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I think we all have that “someone” in our lives. Everyone I know deals with something or somebody. The way I have been taught about this is to realize that we only have to answer for ourselves. I hope you are doing well. Valerie
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Im with you and like my friends to be honest - as thats what friends are for.
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I follow a similar path to River. I don’t wish to have arguments, so I will usually just walk away if it is a real life conversation or online I just wont comment.
There are some areas where I feel strongly enough to speak out - vaccines and autism, same sex marriage should be legal - but even then it depends on how well I know the people.
I was taught from an early age that my opinion is not worth as much as others and that still sticks now.
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I’m like River and Marita.
There are peoplein my life who I can not successfully disagree with, so I say nothing. Then there are those who I know I can say I have a differing opinion and not have then gut me like a fish.
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